I can’t believe it’s been two years since I was standing in your shoes as the newly elected Commander of my chapter. At the time, I thought I had all the answers. In retrospect, I had no idea what I had gotten myself into.
As you will soon discover, this year is going to be one of the most difficult and challenging of your lives. The responsibility is great; the liability, even more so.
But when the stakes are high, so too are the rewards. Tonight, I want to share some advice and perspective that will hopefully help you make the most of your term as Commander.
I want to begin by asking three simple questions. Your answer to each of these questions will be a good indicator as to how successful your term will be.
First: Are you in this for the right reasons?
There are two types of leaders in this world: those who seek to add value to every endeavor, and those who seek to extract it.
As Commander, you should be focused on creating value for your organization by leveraging your strengths and the strengths of your members to solve problems.
If you are in this for yourself, for a line on your resume or a letter of recommendation, you will almost certainly fail. How can you govern each act by a high sense of honor if your decision to run for office was based on dishonorable motives? You will lose the respect of your members and ultimately yourself.
Second: Will you be an ethical leader?
Much of your curriculum these past few days has focused on the concept of ethical leadership. In my opinion, ethical leaders are those who lead with vision and courage. They have a vision of a better future for their organization and are willing to make the courageous decisions along the way to turn that vision into reality.
I cannot think of a more appropriate venue that the Virginia Military Institute to share this message with you. One of the Institute’s Latin mottoes, when translated, reads: “By vision and courage.”
Ethical leadership often involves saying “no,” and choosing the harder right over the easier wrong. This is no easy task. But make no mistake – your members elected you to lead; to make the difficult decisions they themselves are not willing to make.
Third: Will you leave a lasting legacy?
Twelve months from now, at the end of your term, will your members be willing and able to fill the void you leave behind?
I am not suggesting you handpick a successor; quite the contrary. Identify those individuals who are capable of following in your footsteps. Give them opportunities to prove themselves, and provide them with support and guidance along the way. Then, let them compete for the hearts and minds of their would-be constituents. Let them prove they have the vision and courage to take your place.
One of your most important responsibilities as Commander will be to cultivate a sense of ownership amongst your members. You may be their leader, but this is their chapter, and they are stakeholders in both its successes and its failures.
Remember: Your obligation to excellence, at its heart, is an obligation to others.
Having considered these three questions, and their implications, you may feel a little overwhelmed or apprehensive. Allow me to offer some words of comfort: you are not in this alone.
College of Chapters has provided you with a roadmap for success; a guidebook for achieving excellence. And, as you have seen over the past few days, the Fraternity offers a wealth of resources to help you along the way (if, of course, you choose to take advantage of them).
You will undoubtedly face adversity. And you will undoubtedly make mistakes. I did. But if you commit yourselves to leading with vision and courage, your alumni and this Fraternity will stand beside you every step of the way.
But you, and only you can make this commitment, and the time to make it is now.
Last year, your predecessors were asked to make this same commitment. Some of them chose to lead with vision and courage; others chose to maintain the status quo; to accept mediocrity; to shirk their obligation to excellence.
In particular, two Commanders from last year come to mind: one from North Carolina, the other from Ohio. Each had inherited a once-strong chapter facing serious operational deficiencies. Each left College of Chapters with a vision, and a framework for achieving that vision, knowing that the survival of his chapter was on the line. But only one had the courage to govern his chapter with the high ideals and noble purposes of this fraternity – Love, Honor, and Truth. The other saw his chapter’s charter suspended and its doors closed, on his watch.
Tonight, though he is not in attendance, please join me in thanking Brother Josh Cherok from the Zeta Gamma Chapter at Kent State University for his hard work and dedication to excellence.
The question remains: Will you follow Brother Cherok’s example and lead your chapter with vision and courage?
I want to share with you three pieces of advice that served me well during my term as Commander.
First: Be kind.
Kindness inspires results. People enjoy working for those they enjoy working with. Whenever possible, let your members know that you respect them and appreciate their contributions. No matter how hard you try, you simply cannot run a successful chapter on your own.
In their book Remarkable!, Randy Ross and David Salyers draw an important distinction between leadership and power. Leadership is about influencing others. Power is about dominating them. And nothing of enduring, positive value ever happens by force.
Second: Be humble.
The position of Commander is a thankless one. Your best will never be good enough. Your achievements will be minimized and your mistakes blown out of proportion. But, at the end of the day, if you can look back on your term confident that you left everything on the field, you can hold your head high and be proud that you did your level best. What more could anyone ask?
In times of trial, I often look to a passage entitled “The Penalty of Leadership.” The passage comes from a 1915 Cadillac advertisement in the Saturday Evening Post. Cadillac had just introduced the first mass-produced V8 engine automobiles. The company’s competitors said they were destined to fail. Cadillac responded:
“If the leader truly leads, he remains – the leader. Master poet, master painter, master workman; each in his turn is assailed, and each holds his laurels through the ages. That which is good or great makes itself known, no matter how loud the clamor of denial. That which deserves to live – lives.”
Third: Have fun.
Your experience as Commander will serve you well in the real world. And though you have taken on some real world responsibility in this new role, you are not in the real world just yet. Take advantage of every opportunity to enjoy yourselves and spend time with your friends. You will look back on college as four of the best (but also four of the shortest) years of your lives.
Take a moment and look at the person seated to your left and to your right. Collectively, we are a diverse group of individuals representing a diverse group of chapters. For example:
Garrett Oberst from the Epsilon Mu Chapter represents 103 members. Tony Lee from Eta Omicron represents 49.
Jon Paul is the Delta Gamma Chapter’s 106th Commander. Brendan Hall is Mu Psi’s 9th.
Glenn Walls leads the Iota Delta Chapter from Harrisonburg, Virginia. Cody Wagner leads Delta Iota from Pullman, Washington.
And yet, despite these differences, each of these chapters is on pace to achieve Rock Chapter status.
The metrics we use to judge success from one campus to another vary. But ethical leadership is the constant; vision and courage will always be the keys to success.
I want to leave you with the words of General George Patton, best known for his command of the Seventh and later the Third United States Army in the European Theater of World War II. Patton, an alumnus of the Virginia Military Institute, is remembered for his fierce determination, capable leadership, and ability to inspire men on the battlefield. He said, “Lead me, follow me, or get the hell out of my way.”
Gentlemen – I hope you choose to lead; to lead with vision and courage; to meet and exceed your obligation to excellence. Your chapter needs you. This Fraternity needs you. And this country needs you, desperately.
I am honored to call each of you “Brother.” Good luck, God’s speed, and remember: there is no honor in mediocrity. Honor can only be obtained through excellence.
Wells Ellenberg (Georgia) is a past Collegiate Grand Councilman and the 2012 Sigma Nu Man of the Year.